Having negative feelings toward one's ex is common after divorce. These feelings can make managing a joint child custody arrangement somewhat difficult. Here are some things Alabama residents who have this type of custody plan in place can do to make it work for everyone involved.
First, take badmouthing one's ex off the table even if it might be justified. Regardless of how one feels about his or her ex, the children do not need to hear about it. At the end of the day, most children love both of their parents and hearing one speak poorly of the other can harm the parent-child relationship.
Second, remember that the custody agreement is not about the parents; it is about the children. The final custody plan needs to be one that takes a child's needs into consideration. In other words, the parents need to make sure they can actually make the proposed plan work so that they and their children can meet their commitments in and outside the home.
Third, figure out how to communicate with one's ex. This is not always easy. It is necessary to find a form of communication that works best for one's specific situation -- such as talking, texting or emailing. Once a form of communication is agreed upon, stick to it and keep all information shared with one's ex strictly about the kids.
Finally, be willing to make adjustments when needed. Children grow, parental work schedules change, a number of life events may occur that require a child custody plan be revised. When something comes up that necessitates a modification to the custody plan, take the proper steps to seek the required adjustment.
Joint child custody is said to be the best arrangement in most instances for children and their parents following a divorce. That does not mean it is necessarily easy to make work. Legal counsel can help Alabama residents who are seeking to dissolve their marriages, negotiate joint custody plans that benefit everyone involved.